Monday, June 14, 2010

What do I do about bullying at work?

A spider using a snail's shell
Don't take it on board. It is the bully's problem, and you cannot let it rule your life or torture you. Once you have reported it to the necessary authorities, your job is to not let it overwhelm you. I feel sorry for the person who feels they need to do this to you, but more importantly you need to protect yourself from their harm and not let it make you falter. You will need to be very weary about being with them, and how you relate to them. Life is full of complications, and that is one reason why I am here.

Monday, May 31, 2010

What is your favourite colour?


I used to think I had one, but as I have gotten older, I realise that every colour has it's place. I love them all. It comes down to colour placement and selection.
They are all good, I like 'em bright, I like 'em dark. I like to choose exactly what shades I feel like wearing, because it makes me feel good. Colour has such an exciting visual power, it amazes me how wonderful colours are.

How do you get candle wax off a candle holder?


I find the best way is with super-hot water. Just run the hot tap over it, and use a blunt knife to peel off the melted wax. Works like a dream.

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Do I dress up or down for the Super-Deluxe Bar at Artspace?


If you dress up, you will stand out, and if you're feeling gregarious then thats great. If you're feeling self-conscious and just want to blend with the crowd, dress down. That's my advice.

Friday, May 28, 2010

How do I stop obsessing about something?


I don't think you can, you can direct the thoughts to drift away like clouds, by visualising a peaceful blue sky. When they return you have to refuse to engage with them, and repeat the process, whilst doing other things that may help to get your mind off. The biggest thing to remember is you are doing the best you can, and eventually the thoughts are going to give way to a new issue. You just have to be strong and not lament it, but let it empower you, rather than drain and incapacitate.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

How can I tell the difference between what my ego thinks I want and what I truly need?


Want vs need. So much that we think we desire is superficial and a passing phase. What we need is a definite , categorical need. Much is spoken about knowing what we want...but sometimes when you get what you think you want it isn't actually what you need at all. I can only suggest taking time and consideration when manoeuvring in the world. I believe we know somewhere deep inside what it is we need, but it comes with maturity, and when you are not being swayed by other people's desires/acquisitions...
Ego is a big little word, so much is dictated by this maelstrom of a human facet...it wants it all! Sometimes you have to squash the fucker into a box and be realistic, but it can be such a driver as well, so let it out at appropriate occasions and let it dance, but don't let it dictate YOU!
I think life is just a series of trials and errors, a constantly learning, dare I say journey. It is NEVER too late to reform and reassess. Go with your heart, and if it isn't right, scrap it, forgive yourself and start again. You are always learning about yourself, just try not to be too fixed in your opinions.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

When is the right time?


The time is NOW. Otherwise just listen to the wind, it will tell you.